My ex-bf whos now my friend is using me or only a penefit friend ? help me pls :( gay? I was dating a guy who was 26 at the time and me 28 we became bf very quickly actualy on the first day we first met felt in love. then we lived together every single day 24h.
We then broke up 1 year later.. he had to go to his home town which is 5 hours away from my city.. due to that he had to get a job and so on. He and i said no regrets we only split up in a good way without the wrong way.
He then became my friend and only kept intouch online or on the phone almost every week.
Then he ends up he is lonely and so on...
We seem to kept intouch for 3 years..
Then after 3 years he slowly kind of stop contacting me on the net and via the phone. And because he found a bf... and he now end sup been quiet because he is now focus on his new lover in his home town.
Aniways my ex bf whos know my friend name is (andrew) hasnt been contacting me that well at all.. and only random times during very short times and then i dont hear from him for 5 months sometimes i dont hear from him for 8 months.. And his been with his bf for 2 years together........
He then contacts me online that he broke up with his bf 3 months and said im free i can do what i want... then he ends up saying he wants to meet up with me and then ends up wanting to have sex.
So we met up as he made a travel all the way to my city on the plane.... for a weekend meet we had sex. thats all
then he goes back home. And ends up going quiet.. which was odd course his now single.... and only cares to contact me on the internet 2 weeks before he does makes plans to travel to my city obviously to meet me in the hotel to have sex again
I then realise that all he cares is contacting me when he plans to come to my city and only goes dead quiet ones he goes back home and i dont hear from him for months....
So i told him your a **** BUDDY aint you.......... he said to me NO we are just POTENTIAL PENEFICT FRIENDS... SOMEONE I CAN TRUST.. and he also said: Believe me i havnt had sex since we last met months ago... and i dont have sex with anyone els but with u only....
So okies... we just met 3rd time and all it seems seems a meet for sex and not really going out together.. we do go out for a smoke and eat at a restaurant but then quickly its sex allnight long.
He is now havnt kept intouch with me for 3 months now.. Im not bothering to contact him anymore.. but only seems he does when he feels like it and when he plans to come here.
So what is he really?
Should i ignore him?
Is he my true friend?
is he a fake friend ?
is he something els all together?
Im fart too nice to ever block him from my life because he was my frist bf i ever had and the most succese i ever had and been together 24hours a day for a whole year with support....
Its just that for the past few years he just seems to be wanting sex with me since he broke up with his bf in his home town.
So what is he really..? what should i say next time he trys to contact me or such?
Him and me are gay... and remember he ends up saying he doesnt have sex with anyone only with me... now either i know his a **** buddy or just taking advantage of me or just a potential penefict friend ?
NOTE: He as he havnt seen me in so long he ends up contact me on text... and ends up saying lets meet see how we go we might get back together. But when we met it was nothing about getting together... and aniways he ends up allways about aaaaah i need a bf i hate been single.. i need a bf...... Aniways him and me are not tempt to be back together as bf. But he said he desparate to have a relationship course he is lonley been single....
So if he is my potential penefit friend... then why is it just sex each time we meet and nothing good anything els?
i told him Do you have friends? he said I HAVE HEAPS OF FRIENDS.
i told him do u have sex with your friend?
He reply and told me: NO I DONT HAVE SEX WITH ME not my interest.
And i told him: If you consider me as a friend.. since im your ex-bf of the past... then why u having sex with me ? Unless your using me as a **** buddy or doing this when you feel lonley and taking advantage of me.
Aniways what do you think ? what should i do.
your advice be good. |
Look: It's over. If he cared about you and wanted you back, he'd pay more attention to you.
You have to put yourself out there where you can find a new relationship: try some of the online dating sites, hit the gay bars, volunteer for some of the gay-friendly charities in your area.
You aren't likely to find a new relationship until you let go of this one. That doesn't mean you need to cut him out of your life, but you DO need to be honest with yourself-- would you treat someone you truly love the way he treats you? I don't think so... |
My ex bf whos my frend is really using me or not really? please help me :( gay? I was dating a guy who was 26 at the time and me 28 we became bf very quickly actualy on the first day we first met felt in love. then we lived together every single day 24h.
We then broke up 1 year later.. he had to go to his home town which is 5 hours away from my city.. due to that he had to get a job and so on. He and i said no regrets we only split up in a good way without the wrong way.
He then became my friend and only kept intouch online or on the phone almost every week.
Then he ends up he is lonely and so on...
We seem to kept intouch for 3 years..
Then after 3 years he slowly kind of stop contacting me on the net and via the phone. And because he found a bf... and he now end sup been quiet because he is now focus on his new lover in his home town.
Aniways my ex bf whos know my friend name is (andrew) hasnt been contacting me that well at all.. and only random times during very short times and then i dont hear from him for 5 months sometimes i dont hear from him for 8 months.. And his been with his bf for 2 years together........
He then contacts me online that he broke up with his bf 3 months and said im free i can do what i want... then he ends up saying he wants to meet up with me and then ends up wanting to have sex.
So we met up as he made a travel all the way to my city on the plane.... for a weekend meet we had sex. thats all
then he goes back home. And ends up going quiet.. which was odd course his now single.... and only cares to contact me on the internet 2 weeks before he does makes plans to travel to my city obviously to meet me in the hotel to have sex again
I then realise that all he cares is contacting me when he plans to come to my city and only goes dead quiet ones he goes back home and i dont hear from him for months....
So i told him your a **** BUDDY aint you.......... he said to me NO we are just POTENTIAL PENEFICT FRIENDS... SOMEONE I CAN TRUST.. and he also said: Believe me i havnt had sex since we last met months ago... and i dont have sex with anyone els but with u only....
So okies... we just met 3rd time and all it seems seems a meet for sex and not really going out together.. we do go out for a smoke and eat at a restaurant but then quickly its sex allnight long.
He is now havnt kept intouch with me for 3 months now.. Im not bothering to contact him anymore.. but only seems he does when he feels like it and when he plans to come here.
So what is he really?
Should i ignore him?
Is he my true friend?
is he a fake friend ?
is he something els all together?
Im fart too nice to ever block him from my life because he was my frist bf i ever had and the most succese i ever had and been together 24hours a day for a whole year with support....
Its just that for the past few years he just seems to be wanting sex with me since he broke up with his bf in his home town.
So what is he really..? what should i say next time he trys to contact me or such?
Him and me are gay... and remember he ends up saying he doesnt have sex with anyone only with me... now either i know his a **** buddy or just taking advantage of me or just a potential penefict friend ? |
There is no difference between F-buddy and "potential benefit friend", but the latter is just a nicer way of phrasing it.
It sounds like he never really moved on from you, something he will have to get used to at some point. Both of you went in different directions with your lives, but he wants to retain that single thread of contact and security for himself. I won't condemn him for that, since I know how important security can be for a person. However, if you don't want this arrangement, you may have to be cruel to be kind, and refuse a sexual meet-up some time. The fact that you indulge him every time you meet gives him the impression that you are alright with that arrangement; if you're not, you'll have to make that clear to him, since I doubt he's a mind reader. |
My ex whos know my friend keeps intouch when he likes. Please help. Gay? Hi i need your advice because im confuse about a friend that i have.
First of all im 29years old gay male.. My friend TOM is 27.
We used to be boyfriends for 1 year and where allways sticking together constantly. We split up a few years ago about 2005.
We end up been just special best friends, we end up keeping intouch almost daily sms and calls.
He went back home which is far away from my city. So his no longer with me and went back to live which is 4 hours flight from me.
So over the years we kept intouch. slowly over the years he aventualy slowly did less contact with me as been my special friend... he found a lover ( a brand new bf) aventualy i stop hearing from him so im presuming he has a new life with a new bf at the time... So aventualy i didnt hear him keeping intouch with me.. over the years i didnt hear from him for over a year..
So we end up meeitng and ends up having SEX again.. he as he was to keep intouch weekens before we met.. ends up wanting to have sex and how horny he is and blah blah....
All the times all he cares is sex about me and how he wants to **** me....
DO YOU HAVE SEX with your friend? he reply (tom) and said no.. but i only consider you as a special friend who i can have sex with and trust with... I havnt done sex with anyone els since i split up with that guy..
So aniways thats what he said...
So again he gone quiet for about a good 4 months...AND then keeps intouch when hes soon to come down to my big city.
So i again i end up now and then argue with him about TOM WHY HAVE U KEEP going so quiet and only CARE to keep intouch a few weeks before you come down to my city for and end up wanting to have sex fun again and again ? I also told him TOM are u a whore or something? TOM SAID: no... please trust me again i havnt had sex since i broke up with my bf in my home small town.. only did sex with u last time we did it and here i am.. telling you i havnt done sex with anyone els... and i see u as a beneficial friend i can enjoy with.
By the way him and me do not consider getting back as relationships at all.
He keeps telling me Im your EX boyfriend here...
I told TOM: isnt your EX BOYFRIEND now the last one u just broke up in your home town? and we end up argueing about it but we still forgive each others..
So How come he ONLY cares to keep intouch with me just weeks before he comes to my big city and then when we meet its only 1 full night stay with him at the hotel... and ends up i going home and he goes out with his mates and i dont hear much from him and ends up just now and then a hi and im safe im back home blah blah but ends up aventualy keeping intouch pretty much DEAD...
Only he seems to keep intouch when hes about to coem to my big city... and keeps intouch now and then online and on sms weeks before he comes. But when he leaves the keeping intouch goes DEAD and i dont hear from him for the next 4 to 8months or even 1 full year. Until he wants to care about keeping intouch again.
what do you think ?
My opinion it sounds like his a fck buddie but same time a friend or i taking the advantage of me or i dont no... What u think?
So whats with him allways sex everytime>? should i ignore him and i too dont keep intouch with him ? Oh tho he was my frist ever bf i had and was nice to me.... I gues he has his own issues too. |
| I agree wif 'aso'... |
My friend is taking advantage of me or perhaps im a special friend ? PLEASE HELP ME :( gay? (NOTE: Im sorry if this is very long to read. But i wanted to share with you precies how i feel and whats going on about between him and me. I would really preciated if someone can reply and tell me in detials what you think about TOM so that i am aware. In this case i will GIVE YOU FULL RATINGS for the best reply given.. soemthing too short wouldnt be propiate. Oh and be nice to me about this thanks.)
First of all im 29years old gay male.. My friend TOM is 27.
We used to be boyfriends for 1 year and where allways sticking together constantly. We split up a few years ago about 2005.
We end up been just special best friends, we end up keeping intouch almost daily sms and calls.
He went back home which is far away from my city. So his no longer with me and went back to live which is 4 hours flight from me.
So over the years we kept intouch. slowly over the years he aventualy slowly did less contact with me as been my special friend... he found a lover ( a brand new bf) aventualy i stop hearing from him so im presuming he has a new life with a new bf at the time... So aventualy i didnt hear him keeping intouch with me.. over the years i didnt hear from him for over a year..
So we end up meeitng and ends up having SEX again.. he as he was to keep intouch weekens before we met.. ends up wanting to have sex and how horny he is and blah blah....
All the times all he cares is sex about me and how he wants to **** me....
DO YOU HAVE SEX with your friend? he reply (tom) and said no.. but i only consider you as a special friend who i can have sex with and trust with... I havnt done sex with anyone els since i split up with that guy..
So aniways thats what he said...
So again he gone quiet for about a good 4 months...AND then keeps intouch when hes soon to come down to my big city.
So i again i end up now and then argue with him about TOM WHY HAVE U KEEP going so quiet and only CARE to keep intouch a few weeks before you come down to my city for and end up wanting to have sex fun again and again ? I also told him TOM are u a whore or something? TOM SAID: no... please trust me again i havnt had sex since i broke up with my bf in my home small town.. only did sex with u last time we did it and here i am.. telling you i havnt done sex with anyone els... and i see u as a beneficial friend i can enjoy with.
By the way him and me do not consider getting back as relationships at all.
He keeps telling me Im your EX boyfriend here...
I told TOM: isnt your EX BOYFRIEND now the last one u just broke up in your home town? and we end up argueing about it but we still forgive each others..
So How come he ONLY cares to keep intouch with me just weeks before he comes to my big city and then when we meet its only 1 full night stay with him at the hotel... and ends up i going home and he goes out with his mates and i dont hear much from him and ends up just now and then a hi and im safe im back home blah blah but ends up aventualy keeping intouch pretty much DEAD...
Only he seems to keep intouch when hes about to coem to my big city... and keeps intouch now and then online and on sms weeks before he comes. But when he leaves the keeping intouch goes DEAD and i dont hear from him for the next 4 to 8months or even 1 full year. Until he wants to care about keeping intouch again.
what do you think ?
My opinion it sounds like his a fck buddie but same time a friend or i taking the advantage of me or i dont no... What u think?
So whats with him allways sex everytime>? should i ignore him and i too dont keep intouch with him ? Oh tho he was my frist ever bf i had and was nice to me.... I gues he has his own issues too.
So is he really a friend or not? i did argue with me many times over the months and stuff about why u doing this to me.. course TOM you allways care about sex and sex all the times but nothing els...... I mean its nice but sounds like your been a **** buddie and he ends up saying we are NOT **** buddies.. just see u as a beneficial friend i can trust for..
And ends up saying: Please believe me allways i dont have sex with anyone els since i broke with my bf over a year or so. And only did sex with YOU only last time i came to your city...
So what you think? i mean i dont want to loose a friend but same time hmmm skeptical and after all i dont have too many gay friends myself so i dont no.. I just know TOM for years know thats all...
OR maybe im just been paranoid about it thinking far too much... Or perhaps he doing this because i cant get much around and his giving me a portunity of fun or i dont no.... I known him since 2005 he was my bf back then for 1 year until we split in a good way... just over the years things went wierd... from friends to been a sex one or i dont no.
And we both do not intent to get back together at all. He did said im a beneficial friend i can trust and enjoy sex with only. So figuire that one out. Im lost by him. |
| I agree with Ty, just sayin'. |
My friend is taking advantage of me or not! PLEASE help me with your advice please thanks. gay? (NOTE: Im sorry if this is very long to read. But i wanted to share with you precies how i feel and whats going on about between him and me. I would really preciated if someone can reply and tell me in detials what you think about TOM so that i am aware. In this case i will GIVE YOU FULL RATINGS for the best reply given.. soemthing too short wouldnt be propiate. Oh and be nice to me about this thanks.)
First of all im 29years old gay male.. My friend TOM is 27.
We used to be boyfriends for 1 year and where allways sticking together constantly. We split up a few years ago about 2005.
We end up been just special best friends, we end up keeping intouch almost daily sms and calls.
He went back home which is far away from my city. So his no longer with me and went back to live which is 4 hours flight from me.
So over the years we kept intouch. slowly over the years he aventualy slowly did less contact with me as been my special friend... he found a lover ( a brand new bf) aventualy i stop hearing from him so im presuming he has a new life with a new bf at the time... So aventualy i didnt hear him keeping intouch with me.. over the years i didnt hear from him for over a year..
So we end up meeitng and ends up having SEX again.. he as he was to keep intouch weekens before we met.. ends up wanting to have sex and how horny he is and blah blah....
All the times all he cares is sex about me and how he wants to **** me....
DO YOU HAVE SEX with your friend? he reply (tom) and said no.. but i only consider you as a special friend who i can have sex with and trust with... I havnt done sex with anyone els since i split up with that guy..
So aniways thats what he said...
So again he gone quiet for about a good 4 months...AND then keeps intouch when hes soon to come down to my big city.
So i again i end up now and then argue with him about TOM WHY HAVE U KEEP going so quiet and only CARE to keep intouch a few weeks before you come down to my city for and end up wanting to have sex fun again and again ? I also told him TOM are u a whore or something? TOM SAID: no... please trust me again i havnt had sex since i broke up with my bf in my home small town.. only did sex with u last time we did it and here i am.. telling you i havnt done sex with anyone els... and i see u as a beneficial friend i can enjoy with.
By the way him and me do not consider getting back as relationships at all.
He keeps telling me Im your EX boyfriend here...
I told TOM: isnt your EX BOYFRIEND now the last one u just broke up in your home town? and we end up argueing about it but we still forgive each others..
So How come he ONLY cares to keep intouch with me just weeks before he comes to my big city and then when we meet its only 1 full night stay with him at the hotel... and ends up i going home and he goes out with his mates and i dont hear much from him and ends up just now and then a hi and im safe im back home blah blah but ends up aventualy keeping intouch pretty much DEAD...
Only he seems to keep intouch when hes about to coem to my big city... and keeps intouch now and then online and on sms weeks before he comes. But when he leaves the keeping intouch goes DEAD and i dont hear from him for the next 4 to 8months or even 1 full year. Until he wants to care about keeping intouch again.
what do you think ?
My opinion it sounds like his a fck buddie but same time a friend or i taking the advantage of me or i dont no... What u think?
So whats with him allways sex everytime>? should i ignore him and i too dont keep intouch with him ? Oh tho he was my frist ever bf i had and was nice to me.... I gues he has his own issues too.
So is he really a friend or not? i did argue with me many times over the months and stuff about why u doing this to me.. course TOM you allways care about sex and sex all the times but nothing els...... I mean its nice but sounds like your been a **** buddie and he ends up saying we are NOT **** buddies.. just see u as a beneficial friend i can trust for..
And ends up saying: Please believe me allways i dont have sex with anyone els since i broke with my bf over a year or so. And only did sex with YOU only last time i came to your city...
So what you think? i mean i dont want to loose a friend but same time hmmm skeptical and after all i dont have too many gay friends myself so i dont no.. I just know TOM for years know thats all...
OR maybe im just been paranoid about it thinking far too much... Or perhaps he doing this because i cant get much around and his giving me a portunity of fun or i dont no.... I known him since 2005 he was my bf back then for 1 year until we split in a good way... just over the years things went wierd... from friends to been a sex one or i dont no.
And we both do not intent to get back together at all. He did said im a beneficial friend i can trust and enjoy sex with only. So figuire that one out. Im lost by him. |
| i tried reading it, i really did D: |
Batman undies ??! omg? what dose it mean when your going to have sex with your boyfriend and he wears batman underwear?
i think hes gay, & on top of that he had his friends hinding in the closet while we were having sex the frist time!? what should i do?! |
so what if he has batman underwear on. im a nerd tho, i wouldnt really give a damn. i have underwear that says "speak friend, and enter" in elvish on it.
the rest of the question however leads me to believe you are a troll though...so i cant tell if your boyfriend is the one who shouldnt be in a relationship, or if you are the one who isnt mature enough to be in one |
Does he just want in my pants? please help!? alright so my "boy freind" and i have been going out sencie febuary 5th. he has fingerd me and ate me out 3 times. he wants to have sex. i told him i would. he has asked me to send him pix so i have (that was be4 we started going out). about 2 months ago i asked him why it is that we rnt going out and he said that he though it was gay and point less. and i was like uh..okay? then about a month ago i told him i would give him a blowj*b and then 3days later he asks me out. and i told him yes, then he tells me that we cant tell anyone. or its over agean i told him okay. idk should i dumb him? i realy like him . am a virgin hes not. am 14 hes 16. ya i get it am to young but whatever does he just want in my pants? btw the frist time he fingerd me was in his living room on the love seat. while his best freind was sleeping in the chair next to us.we r still going out nobody knows expit for me and him. |
| He wants nothing but to get in your pants! Its obvious all he wants is ***!! And your so ****ing young!! What the hell are you doing this **** for... no affense but thats kinda skanky! |
Okey please lisen ithink i have aids.. im freaking out? okey heres the story im freakig out thinking i have hiv/aids because 1 night me and my friend got high okey im 14 hes 13 yeah ik and like im freaking out because when we got high for the frist time ever we started to try to have sex it was weird to me and him we tried it for maybe 5-10mins okey it hurt so we stop a cuple weaks later i have this lil small looking coldsore on my lip i feel like its a herpe and i went to the doctors all they seid it was a cold sore and like my anals been hurting like dry scab itchy ness like tender meat but no sores and no sores on penis so im kinda happy about that im a vergin i dont know if he is so like im freaking out if i had aids cuz like 2 months later my throat started hurting like strep 2 time vomating lil fevers chills but like idk man it could be a cold and my stomic is hurting today like stomic virus i took pepto it help and antiboitics im freaking out because i been to the doctors like 3 times in 2 weeks and i have not told anone this story cuz im scared my family will say im gay i dont wanna be gay i like chicks you no i was so high i dont no wat was goin on i havnt talking to him sence then i dont no his number so can u guys help me out i dont ever see him taken pills so like i dont think he has it but idk man im scared this 3 day im scared to tell my mom and like i been so stressed out that i think im having thos symtems idk if it relly that or its just me getting scared and is there a cure to stop hiv to turning into aids? thanks for best awnser im scared please help.. and im mostly scared my family will get this from me |
| damn stay in school and do some research |
Long story, 10 points best answer. Please help me get my friend back? Heres the story. My bestfriend thouht she was in love with me. I found this out when i told her that this guy Anthony i liked asked me out. At frist i was like I'm not like that i have no problem with it but i just cant do that. And we droped it. When i later found out my new Bf was cheating on me i dumped his butt. Lol. Then the subject with me and here came up again. Now keep in mind i texted this girl 24/7 non stop. And when i was with her i would be all over her at sometimes. But i really do that with everyone. Im a flirt i love doing that crap. So she wanted to talk about it. So she told her how she felt and i thought it was a phase the whole time. She said she got that feeling in her you know what when she was around me. And i was like "whoa" But when she broke down crying saying "what am i thinking this will never work, your not bi or gay" That was the 1st time i honestly ever saw her really cry. I felt horrible and agreed to do it. Little did i know it would ruin everything. So we went out for a month. Eventually she wanted to get phsyical but i could never really do anything like that. Mentaly i loved her. Phyicaly i couldn't do it. We made out once. And thats about as far as we got. She always wanted phone sex etc etc. You get the idea. I literaly thought she was ligit bisexual or a full out lesbian. But then when she got her phone takin away and we stoped talking for a week. When she got her phine back she was acting werid she then told me that she thinks this whole thing is werid now. And that she basically didnt want to do it anymore. So i fliped out on her because she made me do this all for nothing. She got upset because i really didnt want to be friends anymore. So the next i texted her saying sorry about that ill be friends with u. And Well we started talking she was being a total *****. So i fliped out on her again and then she said Look your being annoying i need some space PLEASE. So i left and stoped talking to her. About 2 weeks later she called me and i didnt pick up because i was busy. So i texted her asking if she called and we just started talking for a little and i mention a boy and that was the end of that converstation. And about a week later i texted her again asking if she still wanted to see lady gaga with me, and she did to my serprise. Our convos were short and sweet. No fighting but no mentioning of what happened. We acted like it never happened. When i think about it now it makes me cringe. I then found out that i have skin cancer and texted her and told her about it. She said it probably be fine and that her mom had that. And the convo ended after 2 texts. I'm thinking about it now and i think i need to sit down with her and have a civil talk. Because its getting to the point where i miss her and i need a bestfriend around. Should i text her and ask her for a civil talk, or just drop it completely?
Please be in detail with your answer. |
| ok listen this happens to lots of people all u have to do is next time u text her ask her to come over and just tell her whats wrong be up right about it and if she crys dont give in we dont want what happened last time. Just be honest and if she doesnt follow its time to give her up and get a new BFF |